Alright, babe, let’s cut the crap and get real for a minute. Low libido is something a lot of us deal with but rarely want to talk about. And it’s time to change that. If your sex drive’s gone MIA, first of all, you’re not broken. Life happens – stress, anxiety, hormones, SSRIs, kids, whatever – and it can take a serious toll on your desire. But guess what? You’re not stuck there forever. Let’s dive into how you can reclaim your libido without all the judgment and bullshit. 😏🔥
1. Drop the Guilt, Babe
Before we even talk about the solutions, we need to tackle something first – the guilt. Society has made it feel like if we’re not craving sex 24/7, something’s wrong with us. Well, f*ck that. Your libido can fluctuate for so many reasons, and it’s perfectly normal. The first step in getting your groove back is letting go of that shame. Low libido doesn’t define you, and it sure as hell doesn’t mean you can’t still have a wild, satisfying sex life.
2. Stress – The Silent Libido Killer
Let’s be real: stress is a libido killer. Between work, family, bills, and all the other sh*t life throws at you, it’s no wonder your desire has taken a back seat. But here’s the deal – you can’t get your groove back if you’re constantly in stress mode. Try creating some time for yourself every day to relax, even if it’s just 10 minutes. Meditation, breathwork, or a long, hot bath can do wonders for calming your mind and getting your body back in the mood.
If you need more guidance on reconnecting with yourself and your desires, my Reclaim Your Libido course is packed with tools and techniques to help you reduce stress and bring back the spark. We’re talking about real strategies, not fluff.
3. Get to Know Your Body Again
When’s the last time you really focused on your own pleasure? Sometimes, low libido comes from disconnecting from your own body. It’s time to change that. Masturbation isn’t just about getting off – it’s about learning what feels good, building confidence, and reconnecting with your sensuality. And guess what? The more you explore your own body, the easier it becomes to get in the mood.
Feeling lost on where to start? In my Reclaim Your Libido course, we dive deep into ways to get back in touch with your body through self-pleasure and mindful techniques that’ll leave you feeling more in tune with yourself than ever. Trust me, babe, it’s a game-changer.
4. Communicate With Your Partner
Sometimes, low libido can be tied to relationship dynamics. If you’re feeling distant or disconnected from your partner, that can seriously impact your desire. The key here is communication. It might feel awkward, but telling your partner what’s going on and how you’re feeling is crucial. They’re not mind readers, after all. Talk about ways to build intimacy without the pressure of sex – cuddling, kissing, flirting – these things can reignite the spark without diving straight into the deep end.
And if you’re looking for more practical tips to bring that connection back, Reclaim Your Libido covers it all. From breathwork to partner exercises, it’s all about helping you get back in sync with yourself and your relationship.
5. Make Time for Pleasure
Let’s be honest: life can get so busy that sex becomes an afterthought. But if you want your libido back, you need to prioritize pleasure. It’s easy to get caught up in the chaos, but scheduling time for intimacy, whether solo or with a partner, can make a huge difference. And I’m not talking about “pencil in sex on Thursday night” kind of scheduling – just set aside moments where you focus on feeling good. Even if it’s just 15 minutes of sensual touch or a little solo time with your favorite toy, it counts!
6. Balance Your Hormones
Hormones play a huge role in libido, and if they’re out of whack, your sex drive might be taking a hit. From postpartum changes to menopause or even just monthly cycles, your hormones can make things unpredictable. If you suspect this is part of the problem, it’s worth talking to your doctor. But in the meantime, there are natural ways to help balance things out – eating a healthy diet, reducing stress, and getting enough sleep can all make a big difference.
7. Give Yourself Permission
Most importantly, give yourself permission to take it slow. Reclaiming your libido isn’t about flipping a switch. It’s about reconnecting with yourself, feeling sexy in your own skin, and removing the pressure to be “on” all the time. You’ve got this, babe – just take it one step at a time.
Ready to dive deeper into getting your libido back? My Reclaim Your Libido course is designed for women just like you – no judgment, no bullshit, just real, practical steps to reignite your desire. It’s time to prioritize your pleasure, reconnect with your body, and start feeling like yourself again. Let’s f*cking go!
Xoxo,
I'm Courtney Hurin and I'm glad you came. 💋